If you’ve ever heard about a Female Led Relationship (FLR) and wondered if it might be for you, this post will give you a good introduction..

What Is A Female Led Relationship?

A Female Led Relationship is exactly what it sounds like.  It’s unlike the traditional relationship between a man and a woman in patriarchal societies where historically the man is the primary source of income and the dominant partner in almost all other areas of the relationship (not necessarily sexually).  A FLR is also not generally an exact equivalent to the dynamic that has become more common in recent years where the man and the woman both bring in an income (not necessarily an equal one), share parenting duties, and share household chores.

Instead, in a Female Led Relationship, the woman generally takes control of many, if not all, aspects of the dynamic:  making decisions, taking control of many if not all aspects of day to day life, and possibly (although not necessarily) extending this control to the bedroom.

Make no mistake, though:  the woman in this dynamic is not the “controlling bitch” who has the man “pussy whipped.”  This relationship is entirely consensual and, as in any responsible relationship, the rights and responsibilities are clearly agreed on and communicated.. These discussions might be casual, but they definitely take place.

Why Might You Prefer One?

A woman may have many reasons for taking the lead position.  Here are just a few:

• She might be a natural leader who is perfectly happy to take control in any situation.
• She can see that the role of dominant partner would not only work well for her but would also provide relief and/or satisfaction to the man.
• She has the skills to be the dominant partner and might love the idea of having a relationship that upends traditional gender norms.

There are many reasons why a man would choose to be involved in a relationship where he doesn’t have to “wear the pants in the family.” Here are just four of them:

• He might find that being a leader and making decisions doesn’t come naturally to him and he gladly gives up these responsibilities to a capable woman.
• He might be a submissive man (both sexually and otherwise) and finds that having a dominant woman control him and their lives together satisfies a deep need in him.
• He might be under a great deal of stress in other parts of his life such as work.  If so, he may find it a huge relief to find that home is a refuge where he can let go of having to make the decisions and play a leadership role even though he’s capable of it.
• He might feel that women are superior to men and deserve to be the leader

What Would It Look Like?

There are many, many variations on a Female Led Relationship.  Often when listeners hear the term they associate it with the BDSM dynamic of a female Dominant and a male submissive, but while that is may frequently be the case it is not always so.

Here are some of the different ways a Female Led Relationship might play out:

• The woman is the sole earner in the family while the man stays at home to handle all the house and yard work, errands, and cooking.  The woman can come home from her busy day of work to find a restful house where she has no responsibilities..
• The woman continues to share chores with the man but takes the responsibility for making most, if not all, the decisions in the relationship (minor and major).
• The woman makes most of the decisions while delegating some to the man, but she is the Dominant partner in the bedroom.

There are almost as many scenarios as there are relationships..  Interested couples can make customize them to their own specific needs and wants.

So, Are You Ready For A Female Led Relationship?

Would like to talk about a FLR, possibly your own experience or just out of curiosity?  If so, check out my schedule, and then check to see if I’m online. If I am, well, definitely give me a call at 1-800-601-6975!  I’d love to talk to you about this or any other topic.

Until next time, stay sexy and stay safe.

Mistress Sascha, Kink Blogger