Ms Paige has instituted a new way for all of us to get to know what she calls “the Mind behind the Mistress.”

She calls it Flix and Lit:

This is for those of us who have a stack of books next to our beds, and who rent more movies than they go out to see. Now be honest- don’t fudge! Copy and paste to your blog, and let’s have a slice of the Mind Behind the Mistress. Or slave. Slaves can post too! Just remember to leave your link in my comments so we can all go look! This week, what is on your bedside table? What movies did you rent?

I think this is a smashing idea, so here’s my Flix and Lit for this week:

As some of you know, I’ve recently moved, so most of my books are still in boxes. But here a few that I’ve recently unpacked and set aside for bedtime reading:

• Spiritual Bathing: Healing Rituals and Traditions from Around the World, by Rosita Arvigo and Nadine Epstein
• Aural Thrills and Oral Skills by Miranda Austin
• The Ecology of Freedom: The Emergence and Dissolution of Hierarchy, by Murray Bookchin
• The Honest Courtesan: Veronica Franco, Citizen and Writer in Sixteenth-Century Venice, by Margaret Rosenthal (this was gifted to me by a very special man, and I am looking quite forward to devouring this book!)

My Netflix choices this week:

• None! I’ve been way too busy. But lately, I’ve got a hankerin’ to watch Henry and June. For like the 10th time.

Image: Woman Reading, by Pierre-Auguste Renoir

Mark your calendars and get your credit cards ready! This is the first marathon I will be participating in, and I want you to make it good for me! Very good.

I will be available on Saturday, May 19, from Midnight till Noon. Email me or IM in advance to arrange a call.

A new initiate of mine asked several very good questions of me in our initial interview. And because my answers to him ended up including many “about Ms Veronica” statements, I thought I would expand upon my conversation with him and share my answers here.

What do you mean by: “ A demon with a lust for the succulent taste of the male soul?”

I believe sex is the most direct way to the soul. And so, I seek to conquer men sexually because to do so is to stand at the threshold of the soul. Some people get to this point only to turn back out of fear. But I am not afraid to stand at that threshold, and at those times when it is proper to do so, to cross over it and partake of the secret feast that waits there.

And because I know that such a feast awaits, I long to conquer, to take possession, to own this boundaryland of a man’s soul. And on occasion, to even devastate, violate, desecrate it… but NOT destroy, never destroy.

Destruction of this boundary inevitably leads to loss of will, loss of succulence, the death of a man’s lust. And a man made barren in this way would leave me nothing on which to feed. So you see, my choice to avoid destruction is not motivated by a half-assed desire to be humane, but by a calmly conscious, absolutely selfish hunger.

As I’ve already said, it does no good to ruin a man simply for the sake of doing it. However, destroying the boundaries of a man’s soul is very different than breaking his will. When it has become clear to me that a man needs to be broken, I will not hesitate to break, but I will do it because the time has come to break him open; the time has come for him to be more alive, not less so.

So, what do I mean when I describe myself as, “a demon with a lust for the succulent taste of the male soul?”

It means that I am not the woman you were taught to want. I am a woman preternaturally aware of her dark ancestry, her feral beginnings, her true amoral nature… I am a hungry woman… a woman you can do nothing about.

Like the beautifully hideous thing from which you cannot turn away… I simply AM. Lusciously young. Disturbingly ancient. Waiting…. unavoidable… just ahead of you on the path to yourself.

Read part one and two

A new initiate of mine asked several very good questions of me in our initial interview. And because my answers to him ended up including many “about Ms Veronica” statements, I thought I would expand upon my conversation with him and share my answers here.

How do you like to work with the men who contact you?

Well, first let me say that even in a 10-minute session, each man I speak with gets my full attention and presence. Though we are not trained in this culture to think about sex in this way, I know that even a 10-minute “quicky” call can end up being a memorable and even in some cases, sacred, moment in that man’s life.

But I would have to say that my favorite way to work is over time with those men who are truly interested in sexuality as a way to not only feel physically good, but also as a way to self-discovery.

These men, I call initiates. They are signing on with me for training, mentoring, control, an expansion of self through sexuality. It is with these men that I do my best work.

I am not loud and I will never scream at you, but I am very demanding. I am capable of cruelty and humiliation, and it is my nature to be quite devious. However, I am not into arbitrary humiliation or unsafe punishments.

My way of domination is very focused and intense, and ultimately, located in the center of your mind.

To be continued…

Read part one and three

A few nights ago in chat, I asked everyone to tell me a naughty bedtime story. What I did not tell the room, however, was that there would be a prize for the winner (the person I decided did the best job at granting my request).

This was a sly experiment on my part to see just who was paying attention, and also to find out just how many of you walk your talk. I wanted to see which of you, even without the carrot-dangling allure of a prize at the end would simply attempt to please me by fulfilling my request, who would give me what I asked purely on the basis of his submissive nature.

Well, some of you were exempt from my little experiment, of course, because you do not consider yourself submissive. Some of you rose to the occasion eventually - mr smith, asia, pothead, pet, healer, and a few others.

However, each of you told me the story YOU wanted to hear, which was your first mistake. Though, I must say, mr smith did provide his usual prolific wordsmithing (pun intended), and pothead actually managed to spin out a reasonably hot story!

In the end, I declared two winners - healer and useable. I chose healer because he was consistent and persistent in his storytelling and told a story I could enjoy. However, healer stupidly disqualified himself at the last moment with his quite disrespectful “parting shot.”

So, the winner, by far, was: useable. And the reason he won with room to spare? He was respectful, he brought up things that he knows I like and expertly worked them into the story, and most importantly, he served my request with perfect respect and personal attention to the story I wanted to hear. Further, he did it without question, AND - he did it without the promise of a prize!

And so, useable has been gifted with a very special prize from me. The juicy details of which none of the rest of you will ever know.

The moral of this story:

If you are a submissive who is ready to learn about the depths and subtleties of Dominance and submission, pay attention when Ms Veronica asks you to do something for her… because you can be sure Ms Veronica is always paying attention to you.

If you consider yourself a straight (or bi) non-submissive crossdresser…
If you cross dress for reasons other than sissification…

I want to hear from YOU!

In an effort to address the specific interests of crossdressers and transvestites as described above, I am writing a series of articles for Femphone, and I would love to hear your thoughts on these questions:

• What does it mean, to you personally, to retain your male identity while crossdressing?
• How do you identify yourself and what you do - privately and/or socially?
• Where do you place yourself in the context of the transgendered community?
• And finally, what kind of articles or information would you like to see more of on Femphone?

If you would like to leave a brief comment, you may do so right here on this post. If you have something more involved to say on this subject, you may email or IM me.

I look forward to hearing from you!

The next round of questions in Ms Ava’s Get to Know a Mistress game (I love this game!):

Who is the best kisser you ever had the pleasure of locking lips with? What made them so special?

The first man who was ever submissive to me. He literally “gave” himself to me with his kiss. That was the life altering moment when I realized how truly humbling it is to become the trustee of another human being’s surrender.

What is your favorite thing about spring time?

The way the air smells! I live in the country, so as soon as the farmers start to till the fields, the whole world smells like fresh, wet earth. I just can’t get enough of that smell! I must have been a fertility goddess at some point in my soul’s career.

Where is one place you would like to have sex at, but have not yet had the opportunity? Why is this location so appealing to you?

In a graveyard. It’s appealing because it’s scary, but also because sex there would be a ritual offered to the ancestors from whom I was made, and in that way, it would be a profound affirmation of life.

What is the one make-up related item you could not live without?

Lipstick! Though a close second would be nail polish.

What is the sexiest thing someone has ever said to you?

“Honey, I just bought you a new laptop.” LOL. Actually, that’s the most recently sexiest thing someone ever said to me. But, the all time sexiest thing ever said to me would have to be: “Fix me a sandwich, bitch.” No, no, I’m being silly!Ok, really, it would be: “You’re so… European.” The context in which this sentence was delivered is way too involved (and too personal) to describe here, but trust me, it was the perfect thing, said at the perfect moment, in the perfect tone of voice.

Thank you again, Ms Ava, for these great questions!

In which I get to respond to Ms Ava’s latest round of questions in her delightfully cheeky Get to Know a Mistress game:

1. If a sculptor were making a statue of you (posing solo, but you can have a prop), in what position would you like to be rendered?

Crouching, ready to spring. Or, better yet, invisible (I’d love to meet the sculptor/magician who could render that!)

2. If you could wake up tomorrow fluent in any language, which language would you choose?

Japanese. Yes, a far cry from the Romance languages I love, but I would be able to say “lip my stocking” right to Bill Murray’s face… and mean it.

3. Growing up, were you a tease? (this question comes courtesy of my darling exhibitionist pet, Brandon).

Now, I know that everyone is expecting all us Mistresses to say - yes, of course I was a teenage tease. However, I must admit, I was not - at least I didn’t think so at the time. I was too into casting spells and reading tarot and generally maintaining my protective “scary quiet girl” persona to bother with teasing. It wasn’t until I was older, and I was able to look back at myself as a teenager, that I realized that I had actually been the worst kind of tease - one who teases obliviously, without even knowing what teasing is!

But oblivious girls grow up and get all… un-oblivious. And now I am not the worst kind of tease, but the most dangerous - a professional. And now… all your cock are belong to me!

4. We recently has this discussion in my Yahoo group. List the top three songs to make love to. List the top three songs to fuck to.

Making love: Sade’s Love Deluxe (the whole album); the sound of crickets and/or peepers in the summer; rain on flagstone - also in the summer.

Fucking: Any early Santana (EXCEPT, believe it or not, Black Magic Woman - I have come to really hate that song); bellydancing drums; older goa trance music.

5. St Patrick’s Day is just around the corner….do you believe in “luck”? Why or why not?

I believe in the mind-blowing abstraction of chaos, of which the warmer, fuzzier concept of luck is sometimes an expression. How’s that for a pain-in-the-ass obfuscation of an answer?

A new initiate of mine asked several very good questions of me in our initial interview. And because my answers to him ended up including many “about Ms Veronica” statements, I thought I would expand upon my conversation with him and share my answers here.

How did you find yourself in this line of work?

I have had several D/s relationships in my life, though I was never what is referred to as a pro Domme. My experience has not been in the social aspect of BDSM (munches, play parties, clubs, etc.), but in one-on-one relationships that grow naturally out of two people meeting and discovering each other. Some of these relationships lasted years, others only a few days. All of them were sacred. And each of them gave me the opportunity to learn invaluable lessons in the ways of power.

Some time ago, I chose to bring this past experience to the work of the phone Mistress; the modern world’s answer to an impartial sexual confessor.

 

To be continued…

Read part two and three